How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over

What do you really want? I mean, really, REALLY want?

Do you want washboard abs?

Do you want a raise and a promotion at work?

Do you want a house in the ‘burbs?

Do you want to have a baby?

Do you want a heavier clean & jerk?

Do you want to own your own business?

Do you want to have a better relationship with your family?

Getting what you want is simple, but not easy. In this moment in time, we have access to more resources than ever before to help you reach whatever goal you want to reach. Your problem isn’t a lack of resources or ideas; your problem is that you don’t take advantage of those resources and act on those ideas.

Why don’t you take advantage of the resources or act on your ideas? Because you believe that you’re fine. And when you say you’re “fine,” that allows you to get away with doing nothing. You don’t push yourself to get out of any rut you’re in. But, are you really fine? Do you really feel fine about not getting what you really want?

Getting what you want requires a certain level of discomfort and effort. In order to get what you want, there will be times you have to do things to push yourself forward, even when you don’t feel like it.

And, news flash: You’re never really going to feel like it. 

So, what to do?

Parent yourself. Remember when you were a kid, and your parents made you do things that you didn’t feel like doing, just because those things needed to get done? Your parents no longer have jurisdiction over you. As an adult, you need to parent yourself. Do stuff that needs to get done, even when you don’t feel like it.

And that requires you to force yourself to be uncomfortable. Get past your feelings, and focus on what needs to be done. If you always listen to how you feel, instead of what you want, you won’t get what you want, because you will never feel like it. 

So, what do you really want? And how are you going to get it?

Keep coming forward - Coach K